Regularly I see in my clients, as well as myself, self-sabotage. We see our goal. We know what we want. Then we get in our own way. We procrastinate. We make excuses. We eat or drink. Or we may not even know how we’re self-sabotaging, just one day it clicks that the excuse of “jinxing myself” isn’t working and it’s really self-sabotage.
Self-sabotage is an unhealthy attempt by the mind to keep us in a place where our sense of self-worth is maintained. If we try and reach one of our goals, we might fail. Self-sabotage is our way of preventing the embarrassment of failure. However we might not fail. If we put as much energy into working on our goals as we put into self-sabotaging, there’s a very good chance we would succeed.
The first step to stopping self-sabotage is admitting to ourselves we are self-sabotaging. Then we can decide what we need to do. Here are some ideas to help stop self-sabotage:
1. Make a plan and stick to it.
2. Create a vision board with images and words reminding you of your goal.
3. Use energy modalities like Reiki, Bio-energy or Kundalini Yoga to help stop self-sabotage.
4. Visit a life coach or a counsellor to help you stop getting in your own way.
Published in the Connaught Telegraph newspaper on 28 Mar 2017