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The Importance of Connection

Connection is a vital part of minding your mind. This has two parts – connecting with yourself, and connecting with others.

Connecting with yourself means bringing an awareness to your thoughts and feelings. What is the balance between your negative and positive thoughts and feelings? When you observe your thoughts and feelings, you may find that you think or feel more negatively than you thought. Or perhaps you think or feel incredibly positive.

When someone thinks more negatively, then they may find it hard to see the good in the world. When someone is overly positive in their thinking, then they may be ignoring deep feelings of anxiety and hurt. By connecting with our thoughts and feelings, we can work on healing them. Journaling and meditation are fantastic ways to connect with ourselves.

It’s important to reach out and connect with others. Humans are social beings and we are need others to survive. We need people around us for different reasons. Some people are fantastic to have fun with. Others are good to talk out problems with. Then there are people who share similar hobbies and interests and it’s good for the mind to connect with them. Connecting with others can be as simple as meeting someone for a cuppa, or contacting a local community centre for information about local hobby and charity groups.

To find out more about meditation and journaling, visit http://www.relaxfromstress.ie, contact Relax From Stress on 086-2202734 or email tracy@relaxfromstress.ie.

Published in Connaught Telegraph Newspaper on 25 Oct 2016

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What Is Relaxation?

Recently, someone described guided relaxation meditation to me as boring. She could do the angel meditation because there was something to do in it, but now guided relaxation meditation. She rushed through the body and breathing part of the meditation and then was bored. Since then, I’ve been thinking about this, a lot.

Allowing yourself to let go and relax means being able to focus on your big toe for 5, 10 or 60 minutes and not feel any urge to move on. It means been so comfortable with yourself and so at ease with peace and silence that there’s no rushing through anything. There’s just being.

When I’m deeply relaxed, I feel so calm. My body is calm. My mind is calm. My emotions are calm. When the mind is in control saying “Right we’ve scanned our body, released tension, and now we’re relaxed”. True relaxation means giving the mind some time-off, teaching it that right now, you don’t have anything to do, so you might as well do nothing.

I’ll be honest with you, it scares me when I hear people can’t relax. That they allow their mind to be in control, that it calls the shots, when there’s another part of you that wants to switch off. I understand that, in a way, the mind is doing it’s job, being protective by keeping busy. But, what’s there to be protected from when you are so deeply, and wonderfully calm and relaxed?

Just like the body needs rest and relaxation for good physical health, the mind needs rest and relaxation for good mental health. The mind needs to learn that it is ok to be quiet and not do anything for 30-40 minutes, the usual length of a guided meditation.

So, when you sit down to do a guided meditation, what are you aiming for? Relaxation with a busy mind, or relaxation with a calm mind?

When the mind learns to switch off, it becomes easier to hear the quieter voice of the intuition. This is a voice that knows exactly where we need to go, and the easiest path to get there.

For me, that’s why relaxation with a calm mind is a daily goal.

Best wishes,

Tracy Fitzgerald
http://www.relaxfromstress.ie

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The Three Minds

One of the keys to minding the mind is learning to solve problems that arise day to day. There are three frames of mind: negative, positive, and neutral. The key to problem solving is making the decision from the best frame of mind.

The negative mind is protective and reactive. It often keeps us fearful to keep us safe. Some people operate from the negative or protective mind. They may complain a lot, see danger everywhere or see stress in daily life as something that cannot be handled.

The positive mind looks for pleasure, fulfilment and possibility. It is excited about finding new solutions. Some people are overly positive. They are either risk-takers, or they are overly enthusiastic about finding solutions to stress.

Then there’s the neutral mind. The neutral mind calmly assesses situations, finding a balanced solution to situations. It draws information from the protective negative mind and the enthusiasm of the positive mind to make a neutral decision.

The negative mind and positive mind are calmed into a neutral state of mind through practice and self-care. Self-care for the mind means taking a time-out. Self-care isn’t a luxury or something to feel guilty about. Just like a computer needs to be switched off and on again for it to work, the mind needs to be rebooted through self-care and relaxation.

For a list of time out ideas, visit http://www.relaxfromstress.ie, contact Relax From Stress on 086-2202734 or email tracy@relaxfromstress.ie

As appeared in the Connaught Telegraph newspaper on 18 Oct 2016

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Understanding the Minds!

One of the keys to minding the mind is learning to solve problems that arise day to day. There are three frames of mind: negative, positive, and neutral. The key to problem solving is making the decision from the best frame of mind.

The negative mind is protective and reactive. It often keeps us fearful to keep us safe. Some people operate from the negative or protective mind. They may complain a lot, see danger everywhere or see stress in daily life as something that cannot be handled.

The positive mind looks for pleasure, fulfilment and possibility. It is excited about finding new solutions. Some people are overly positive. They are either risk-takers, or they are overly enthusiastic about finding solutions to stress.

Then there’s the neutral mind. The neutral mind calmly assesses situations, finding a balanced solution to situations. It draws information from the protective negative mind and the enthusiasm of the positive mind to make a neutral decision.

The negative mind and positive mind are calmed into a neutral state of mind through practice and self-care. Self-care for the mind means taking a time-out. Self-care isn’t a luxury or something to feel guilty about. Just like a computer needs to be switched off and on again for it to work, the mind needs to be rebooted through self-care and relaxation.

For a list of time out ideas, visit http://www.relaxfromstress.ie, contact Relax From Stress on 086-2202734 or email tracy@relaxfromstress.ie

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The Trouble Is, You Think You Have Time (Buddha)

The trouble is, you think you have time, to be, to do, to live. 

The trouble is, you think you have time, to fulfill your dreams. 

The trouble is, you think you have time, to marry, have kids, to work and to travel.

 The trouble is, you think you have time to grow old. 

The trouble is, you think you have time to be happy, tomorrow, next year, or in future years. 

The trouble is, you think you have time, and you don’t.

All we have is here and now to be happy. To live, to laugh and to love. We think we have time, to be happy and love in the future, so we allow anxiety and overwhelm to take hold in the present.

It’s time to reclaim our lives. We don’t know when an accident or illness can claim our lives. What are we really striving for in life? I feel the answer to that is love, joy, peace and harmony. We find this through a balance caring for ourselves, and caring for others.

Yesterday, I found out a friend from school passed away from cancer. Life has been given a different perspective.

Today is also Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.  In 2010, a miscarriage gave life a different perspective.

Sending lots of love and hugs to those grieving. 

Tracy Fitzgerald

http://www.relaxfromstress.ie

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Minding Your Mind

Mental Health Week 2016 takes place from the 9th-15th October to raise awareness that mental health is just as important as physical health. Minding the mind helps people cope with life and be happy and healthy!

The mind is designed to be busy. It uses the experiences of the past to plan for the future. Its job is to keep us safe and to help us progress in life.

I see so many people who feel overwhelmed by the busyness of their mind. Often the mind replays events from the recent or distant past. Or the mind focuses on planning the future.

People come to see me when they want to calm the mind so they can think straight. Worries about the past and future stop people from finding a path in the present. Imagine you’re trying to remember where you left something. Think of the frustration and irritability you experience. When you take a time-out with a cup of tea, that’s when you find what you were looking for.

It’s important to care for the mind by taking a time-out. This may mean connecting with a friend, going for a walk, exercising or practicing meditation. It’s important to care for the mind in a way that you love! The time-out suits one person, may not suit the another person.

For a list of time out ideas, visit http://www.relaxfromstress.ie, contact Relax From Stress on 086-2202734 or email tracy@relaxfromstress.ie

As appeared in Connaught Telegraph 11 Oct 2016

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Minding Your Mind

Mental Health Week 2016 takes place from the 9th-15th October to raise awareness that mental health is just as important as physical health. Minding the mind helps people cope with life and be happy and healthy!

The mind is designed to be busy. It uses the experiences of the past to plan for the future. Its job is to keep us safe and to help us progress in life.

I see so many people who feel overwhelmed by the busyness of their mind. Often the mind replays events from the recent or distant past. Or the mind focuses on planning the future.

People come to see me when they want to calm the mind so they can think straight. Worries about the past and future stop people from finding a path in the present. Imagine you’re trying to remember where you left something. Think of the frustration and irritability you experience. When you take a time-out with a cup of tea, that’s when you find what you were looking for.

It’s important to care for the mind by taking a time-out. This may mean connecting with a friend, going for a walk, exercising or practicing meditation. It’s important to care for the mind in a way that you love! The time-out suits one person, may not suit the another person.

For a list of time out ideas, visit http://www.relaxfromstress.ie, contact Relax From Stress on 086-2202734 or email tracy@relaxfromstress.ie

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